[LINK] One way to stop behaviour - bang!

Jan Whitaker jwhit at janwhitaker.com
Sat Feb 11 13:55:09 AEDT 2012

Dad shoots daughter's laptop after negative Facebook post


5:37 PM, Feb 10, 2012

ALBERMALE, North Carolina - A father's Youtube 
video where he uses a .45 handgun to shoot his 
daughter's laptop has created polarizing debate over parenting styles.

Tommy Jordan, of Albemarle, North Carolina, 
posted the video titled "Facebook Parenting: For the troubled teen."

He starts the video with a message to other parents.

"For all you parents out there that think your 
kids don't post bad things on Facebook, well, I 
want to read you one," Jordan says.

Jordan reads the letter, titled "To my parents," 
from his daughter Hannah, saying she used profane 
language against him on her Facebook page.

In the letter, Jordan says he reads in his 
daughter's own words, "We have a cleaning lady 
for a reason. Her name is Linda. Not Hannah."

The profanity-laced letter he reads on camera 
also says his daughter asked for payment for her chores.

"Pay you, for the chores you, seriously?" Jordan 
asks. "Pay you for chores that you're supposed to do around the house?"
Patrons at Denver's Café Europa reacted strongly to Jordan's video Friday.

"There is something that she's trying to 
express," said Margarita Flores of Jordan's daughter.
In the video, Mr. Jordan tried to express 
something more, when he pulled out his .45 
handgun and shot his daughter's laptop.

"That right there is your laptop," he says in the video.

"This right here is my .45," as he proceeds to shoot a bullet into the laptop.

"That was the first round."

He then shoots nearly a dozen rounds into the computer.

"It's one way to teach her," said parent Kevin Geragthy at Café Europa.
Flores disagreed.

"I think there's a better way to communicate than using violence," she said.

"Yeah, I think this dad's awesome," said Café 
Europa barista Rachel Westphall. "If they can't 
make their own bed, that's the kind of adult 
you're raising into this world, awesome. So then 
when they get a job, and I get to work with them 
later, and I get to go behind them and clean up."

Jordan reacted to the viral attention on his Facebook page Friday.

Truthfully...the social attention has helped her 
and I both deal with it. We had our discussion 
about it after she returned home from school. We 
set the ground rules for her punishment, and then 
I let her read some of the comments on Facebook 
with me at my computer. At first it was 
upsetting. Then as we read it became less so, eventually funny to both of us.

Jordan also said this:
"We have always told her what you put online can 
affect you forever. Years later a single 
Facebook/MySpace/Twitter comment can affect her 
eligibility for a good job and can even get her 
fired from a job she already has. She's seen 
first-hand through this video the worst possible 
scenario that can happen. One post, made by her 
Dad, will probably follow him the rest of his 
life; just like those mean things she said on 
Facebook will stick with the people her words 
hurt for a long time to come. Once you put it out 
there, you can't take it back, so think carefully 
before you use the internet to broadcast your thoughts and feelings.
See the video here :
WARNING : Graphic Language

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